Having Fun when You’re Awkward As Hell

I am very awkward. Like, VERY awkward. I randomly, and loudly, laugh at jokes in my head. I have no rhythm whatsoever. I quote obscure movie lines, and not in a cool, hipster way either. I trip over air. I constantly choke on water. I do a lot of strange things. My friends look at …

Jealousy Really Sucks

I’m gonna let you in on a little secret. I am a hater. That’s right. I’ve been sipping on Hater Aide for the longest time. Let me explain. So, I just graduated from law school. You would think that would be something that I can be proud of, right? I am proud, believe me, but …

How I Plan to Make 2017 Better for Myself

We made it! We’re at the end of another year. In a few hours there will be fireworks, ball-dropping, and bottle-popping, all meant to celebrate the long-awaited end to the dumpster fire that was 2016. I think it’s pretty safe to say that 2016 was hard on us. Between the hurricanes, terrorist attacks, earthquakes, the …

“Let’s Just Be Friends,” Is a Cop-Out and Everyone Should Stop Saying It

  "Why would a person say they want to be friends with someone if they don't actually mean it?" I've actually asked myself this question many times since I began dating. It's a familiar scenario. You go on a few dates with somebody and maybe you think you've connected on some level, or maybe that …

My 30-Day “No Apology” Challenge

I don’t know about you, but I apologize for everything. I apologize when people run into me. I apologize to other people when I’m asking them a question. I apologize for all sorts of things I have no control over. And the other day I even caught myself apologizing to a mannequin that I had …

Writing Isn’t Easy, But that’s What Makes It Great

I’ve often come across writers who love to talk about how easy it is. How it comes naturally to them. How they can just put pen to paper and everything just bleeds out. Those people need to stop lying. They make writing sound so easy, and it’s definitely not. I was eavesdropping on a couple …

Don’t Let Self-Doubt Kill Your Creativity

This morning I had everything planned out. I was gonna shower, clean my workspace, make some coffee, and then get to work. You see, writing has always been my dream but there has always been something standing in the way, keeping me from doing it. Maybe I didn’t have any free time left after work …

Dating While Weird

You know that confident, sexy, black woman who exudes fearlessness as she sashays into the room, entrancing everyone with the sway of her hips and that “I came to Slay” smile? Yeah, that woman is not me. I’m the one hiding in the corner, with my frizzy hair and glasses, wishing that I could be that …